Once you become a parent, you are in a position of great responsibility. You are responsible for your life as well as those that depend on you and those around you. There are areas on which you must be seen taking responsibility. These areas include sex life, family planning and dealing with fears and unbelief.
1. Sex is not only for having children
There are some people who think that sex is only for having children. But that is not what the Bible tells us. Sex has a greater purpose than that. It is a way of showing deep love and unity between husband and wife. Sex is meant for giving pleasure.
“Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:18-19).
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency”(1Corinthians 7:3,5).
Sex is meant for pleasure. As a husband and wife, you should enjoy each other. Give yourselves to each other. Note that this is for married people. If you are married, you are ready to take responsibility for whatever outcome of such an intimate relationship. Have sex regularly even if you do not plan to have children. This prevents sexual lust from becoming so strong that you fall into temptation of having sex with a third party. That would be sin against God.
2. Practice Family Planning
Family planning is very important for many reasons. The first one is the health and happiness of the mother. Without family planning the wife could bear a child every year. This would be a dangerous situation for her and the children.
Family planning also help parents provide for their children with clothing, food and their education. So considering spiritual and financial abilities is very important for raising children the right way. This will help decide on the number of children you want to have. Children are a blessing from God.
“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward” (Psalms 127:3).
Since children are a heritage or gift from God, you must take proper care of them. Meet their needs.
Who determines the size of a family?
Children are a gift from God just as I have indicated above. God enables a wife to fall pregnant after sexually meeting her husband. But this does not mean you should fill the earth alone. Take responsibility. You are a ruler you should always have dominion. So do not bring children you cannot fully provide for.
“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”(Genesis 1:28).
3) Deal with fears and unbelief
Do you know that some people think their guarantee for eternal life is to have many children? Their belief is that when they are dead their children shall honour them as their ancestors. So they thing they will live forever that way. Eternal life is only found through Jesus Christ.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”(John 3:16).
The issue of children should not be for selfish reasons. Thinking that if they are many they guarantee something. Other partners think that there are many difficulties and problems of having children and they decide not to have them. Those are fears and unbelief. Put your trust in God and have the courage to plan for your family as God wants them.
So be a responsible parent and spouse. Give pleasure to your spouse. That is by ensuring that you both enjoy sex. Sex is not only for having children. Plan for your family. Do not bite more than you can chew. Deal with fears and deal with unbelief. God loves you. Put your trust in Him.