Have you ever suffered as a result of wounds from a previous love relationship? More often than not, people suffer some bruises from former love relationships especially when those relationships get terminated. People have been bruised and battered by life. They are left with scars. Different people react differently to such occurrences. However, there is a positive side to the scars of life. Do not focus on the negative side. The positive side to it is that you learn some valuable lessons that can help you in a future relationship. This happens if you have a positive attitude.
If you were hurt by your last relationship, you need to be repaired and healed first before you look for a new lover or partner. This will avoid pretense and instead, you will show the real you in a new love relationship. Any potential lover of your life wants to see the real you. Pretending to be someone you are not may lead to the two of you suffering. Some bitterness or negative responses may arise when you are with your new lover, which are a result of the former hurts. So you need to be ready to meet a new lover.
“Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled” (Hebrews 12:15).
A mistake in a new relationship may lead to more hurts and bruises. If you are not ready, there will be problems even if you can find someone who will love and care for you. Someone who enters into a new relationship with hurts and bruises may survive for a while in the comfort of a partner who loves and cares. However, the bad side of it is that once the healing process is complete, the person may start changing and become a new one (the real). He may start looking at things differently and feel like he is not in a right relationship. That may result in problems and the love relationship may not last for long.
The favor you can do for yourself and the potential partner would be to hide for a while. Let your wounds be healed. By so doing you will be fair to yourself and to the potential partner. That is taking responsibility and exercising true love for the other person. The other person does not know your condition but you do. Instead, facilitate your healing by enjoying your friends and family until you fully recover so you can move on with your life.