Marriage is a life commitment according to God. It is important therefore to take your time to understand what marriage is and choosing your best life partner. Never do these things when you are under pressure. Marriage is a very important life choice one can ever make. We are told that is not good for a man to be alone. That means every human being needs to have somebody to spend life with.
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. (Genesis 2:18, 21-25).
When we talk of finding your best life partner we simply mean finding someone who will be suitable for you. He or she may not be perfect, but at least you can live comfortably with each other. You can bear with each other’s shortcomings. Furthermore, that means you can face the challenges of life together. Let us look at the first part of this search journey, which is knowing what you like and dislike.
Before talking about likes and dislikes, allow me to indicate the following:
1) Man was first to be created and the woman was formed later.
Note that the woman was made to suit a man. My point here is that it should not be difficult for man and woman to be together. That is how God created them.
2) God brought the woman to a man.
When God showed up with the woman the man just knew that that woman belonged to him. See how the man welcomed the woman? “..This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh… (Genesis 2:23). Is that not an interesting welcome for the woman. If you are a man, there is a lady out there who is suitable for you. You are a lady? There is a man who is meant to welcome you in his life. Just open your eyes.
Finding a life partner should not be something you should stress about. Just follow the inner guidance and you will meet you suitable life partner. However, in order for you to know the right one, you must first know and understand yourself. How can you do that?
1) Know your likes and dislikes
It is important to know what you like and dislike in life. This will help reduce quarrels and arguments in your marriage. May I indicate that most of this likes and dislikes were formed in our life characters when we were still young and we grew with them. Some of the things we like or dislike were likes and dislikes of our parents or people who were very close to us. These things influenced us so much that they ended up being deeply planted in us. That means we adopted them consciously or unconsciously as ours.
Knowing your likes and dislikes helps you know what you would love seeing your spouse do or not doing in your home, local church, and community. These are important institutions in a human being’s life. This means you know what you want. Therefore, you will easily recognize your future spouse when you meet him or her.
2) Never compromise your strong likes and dislikes
Some likes and dislikes are very strong whilst some are weak. You can compromise the weak ones. That gives you room to be flexible. On another note that accommodates your weaknesses as well. You are also not perfect. So you can let go of the weak likes and dislikes if they are found in your potential life partner. Changing and accommodating them will be much easier.
However, there are those likes and dislikes, which are deeply planted in your life such that changing them will really be difficult. Now compromising them with your future life partner will create a lot of friction. That is the main cause of divorce in marriages. The enemy the devil capitalizes on these ones. It is surprising to learn that some of these compromises take a very long time to reach limits. Once they reach limits, one marriage partner says, “I just can’t take it anymore.” You then hear that a certain couple is divorcing even at old age for that matter. That is terrible. All I am saying to you now, never compromise your strong likes and dislikes.
May I conclude by saying that if you are not yet married, look for the suitable life partner. God created us and He knows us. There is someone who can fit your life. It may not be a perfect one just as we are also not perfect. Staying alone for a life time is not what God intended. Know your likes and dislikes so that you can easily know when you have met the right life partner for you. Never compromise on your strong likes and dislikes because they will reach a limit one day and the consequences shall be terrible. Your life may be a miserable one. But you were created for a great life to enjoy.
Be blessed in Jesus Name!